Its author

Portrait of a humanist of today.

When he is asked to introduce himself, Jacques Salomé, psycho sociologist, but above all writing, (he prefers this terminology to writer), answers most of the time :
" I am a 74 year old man, passionate by human relationships and desiring to propose to each one concrete means to better communicate, because for a very long time I was a disabled, handicapped person of the communication…. "
This ex-handicapped of relationships is today the author of some 60 books with stimulating titles, full of humour and tenderness, such as :
If Only I’d listen to myself; Le courage d'être soi ; Pour ne plus vivre sur la planète taire ; Parle moi…j'ai des choses à te dire ; T'es toi quand tu parles ; Aimer et se le dire ; Car nous venons tous du pays de notre enfance or still….Paroles à guérir ( à gai-rire ! ! !) Contes à aimer, contes à s'aimer ; Lettres à l'intime de soi ; Passeur de vies ; Mille et un chemin vers l'autre ; Vivre avec les autres ; Je t'appelle tendresse,
to name only a few of them…
His passion for human relationships brought him to work with tenacity, coherence and enthusiasm during some 30 years, in the domain of training and personal development. His in-depth research turns around five main themes:

• couple relationship or how to live together in duration (and with more if we have children) ;
• relationship with children, because to him " children are our part of eternity… " ;
• communication at school, because he stands up for the idea" of a necessary education on human relationships, considered as basic curriculum and considered not in terms of knowledge or know-how to do, but rather and above all, in terms of know-how to be, know-how to create and know-how to become, which goes through an awareness to a more conscious communication."
• He also wrote a lot on the relationship with oneself that he considers under an uncommon angle in our culture which has been depreciating for a very long time anything that remotely looks like any interest for oneself. The question he raises and on which he invites us to think about is " how to be or to become a good (or better) companion for oneself. "
  Salutary question if there is.
• Jacques Salomé is also interested by the communication in the working world.
  "To work 8 hours per day, he specifies, is to sell 8 hours of our life per day and the main question is not how much I sell this life for, but how ? And from the standpoint of how, he adds, we always sell it very badly."

He has sometimes been criticized for presenting a too simplistic popularisation around issues as crucial as family education, understanding of conducts and human behaviours or clarification of problems related to interpersonal relationships and personal change, which are certainly more complex and more difficult to grasp…that it seems when reading his books.
Recently he answered on the French television:

What is fantastic with popularisation is that we can understand a lot of things, without necessarily knowing it all ! I work for self-taught people of the existence, for all " normotics ", meaning for those who do not feel too neurotic, basically for people like you and me. Men and women who want to overcome victimisation or dependency, reactional and violence in their daily life. I work for all those who want to become co-author of their life, who have the courage to respect themselves and to be faithful to values such as tolerance, openness towards others, tenderness and non violence.
Because it takes a lot of courage to confront our doubts, to question our erroneous beliefs, to let go of our outdated certainties and to learn to differentiate the relational communication and the consumption communication which is really developed today and too often mixed up with the circulation of information and tools to accelerate its transmission.
The relational communication is done around four main processes: to ask, to give, to receive and to refuse. Everything is there, according to this author, and it is up to us to learn to decline each point on a creative and stimulating mode and not under this condescending form which dominates today in most exchanges… "

Jacques Salomé fights not only through the medium of his written work but with the support of an entire team of presenters and trainers who transmit the E.S.P.E.R.E method that he initiated and transmitted during many years, to stand up for a more friendly communication with our close ones and to attempt to act as a counterbalance to this overdevelopment of the communication with the faraway that our culture favours. His project is to promote communications without violence and respectful of each one’s possibilities. This way, he is an author in the authorising sense of the term.

For more information go to the web site www.j-salome.com